Holiday Observations to Action Plan: BrightStar Care of West Portland's Approach to Addressing Parental Health Changes
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Holiday Observations to Action Plan: BrightStar Care of West Portland's Approach to Addressing Parental Health Changes

December 13, 2024
Gathering around the table during the holidays is about more than good food and laughter—it’s also a chance to notice the little changes in our loved ones that might have gone unnoticed. 

For aging parents, these could include cognitive changes of aging or struggles with daily tasks. Spotting these signs early can help us make meaningful decisions to keep them happy, healthy, and supported.

Spotting Subtle Signs of Aging

Spending time with aging parents during the holidays can help you notice subtle signs of aging that may require attention. Here are some areas to consider:

Changes in Communication

If your parents repeat stories or ask the same questions during conversations, it might indicate early cognitive changes due to aging. Struggling to find words, pausing frequently, or having difficulty keeping up with conversations in noisy environments are additional signs to watch for. These communication shifts can be early markers of cognitive challenges needing further attention.

Memory and Cognitive Concerns

Memory lapses, like forgetting names or misplacing items frequently, can be common as we age, but a noticeable increase in these behaviors could signal more profound cognitive changes in seniors. Confusion about familiar tasks, such as managing medications or cooking routine meals, is another area to observe closely during your visits.

Physical Changes and Mobility Issues

Pay attention to any difficulty walking, standing, or maintaining balance. You might notice they’re moving slowly, leaning on furniture for support, or avoiding stairs altogether. These changes could indicate physical challenges or an increased risk of falls, highlighting the need for additional support.

Behavioral and Emotional Shifts

Mood changes, such as increased irritability, sadness, or withdrawal from social activities, may suggest emotional or cognitive changes in aging. These shifts can also stem from physical discomfort, loneliness, or underlying health concerns.

Changes in Daily Routines

Notice if there are any significant changes in their daily habits, like skipping meals, neglecting personal hygiene, or wearing the same clothes repeatedly. These could be signs that they struggle to manage day-to-day tasks, often accompanying cognitive or physical decline.

Spotting these subtle changes early allows you to take action and ensure your parents receive the care and support they need to maintain their independence and quality of life.

Opening the Door to Honest Conversations

Talking about health concerns with aging parents can be delicate, but open and honest communication is vital for ensuring their well-being. Using empathy and understanding helps create a safe space for these discussions. Here are some practical steps to approach these conversations:

Start with Observations, Not Assumptions

Instead of making broad statements, share specific observations. For instance, you might say, “I noticed you seemed a little unsteady on your feet yesterday. How are you feeling about that?” This approach invites your parents to share their perspectives without feeling defensive or judged.

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Encourage a two-way conversation by asking questions that allow your parents to express themselves. For example:
  • “I’ve noticed you’ve forgotten where you put your keys lately. Has that been happening more often?”
  • “You seemed a little tired after dinner last night. Is that something you’ve been feeling regularly?”

Focus on Support, Not Criticism

Frame the conversation to show your intention is to help, not criticize. For example, instead of saying, “You’re not taking care of yourself,” try, “I want to ensure you’re feeling your best. Is there anything you’ve been finding harder to do lately?” This clarifies that your concern comes from a place of love and support.

Acknowledge Their Independence

Show respect for their autonomy while expressing concern. For example:
  • “I know you’ve always been very independent, but I’ve been wondering if having some help with the housework might make things easier for you.”
  • “You’ve always been so active, but I noticed you’re skipping your morning walks. Is something bothering you?”

Offer Solutions, Not Pressure

When discussing health changes, present options rather than making demands. For instance:
  • “Would it help to have someone come by a couple of times a week to assist with the heavy lifting?”
  • “What do you think about talking to a doctor to see if something could help your energy levels?”

Follow Up with Encouragement

After starting the conversation, make sure your parents feel supported moving forward. For example:
  • “I’m glad we talked about this. Let’s keep checking in so we can work together on anything you need.”
  • “It means a lot to me that you shared your feelings. We’ll figure out a good solution together.”
Approaching these conversations with empathy, respect, and practical suggestions creates an atmosphere of trust and collaboration. These discussions ensure your parents feel heard and supported while opening the door to the care they need.

Creating an Action Plan for Better Care

Once you’ve noticed health or cognitive changes in your aging parents, taking action is essential to ensure their well-being. A clear plan helps address their needs while providing peace of mind for the entire family. Here’s how to create an effective care plan:

Gather Information About Their Needs

Start by identifying specific concerns, such as cognitive changes associated with aging, physical challenges, or emotional shifts. Observe their ability to manage daily activities like cooking, cleaning, and personal hygiene. Note any recurring issues, such as forgetfulness, difficulty walking, or changes in behavior, to form a comprehensive understanding of their current situation.

Consult Healthcare Providers

Reach out to your parents’ healthcare providers for a clearer picture of their overall health. Share your observations about cognitive changes or physical struggles, and ask for recommendations on the next steps. This may include medical evaluations, treatment options, or suggestions for supportive services like physical therapy or memory care.

Involve Family Members

Engage siblings and other close family members in planning to ensure everyone is aligned. Share your observations and any insights from healthcare providers, and discuss how each person can contribute to your parent’s care. A collaborative approach can make the process less overwhelming and ensure your parents feel supported by the entire family.

Identify Priorities and Set Goals

Outline what your parents need most to maintain their health and independence. This might include assistance with daily tasks, companionship, or more specialized care for cognitive changes due to aging. Set clear goals to guide your decisions, such as ensuring they stay safe at home, improving their mobility, or addressing emotional needs.

Explore Care Options

Research in-home care services, senior living communities, or other options that align with your parent’s needs and preferences. Look for solutions that address immediate concerns and long-term care, such as in-home assistance for daily tasks or skilled nursing for more advanced needs.

Create a Flexible Plan

Design a care plan that can adapt to your parents’ changing needs. Include regular check-ins to reassess their situation and make adjustments as necessary. Flexibility ensures that your parents always receive the right care and support.

By taking these steps, you can develop a thoughtful and practical care plan that prioritizes your parents’ health, independence, and happiness. Acting early ensures their needs are met while giving your family confidence to know they are well cared for.

How BrightStar Care of West Portland Can Help

At BrightStar Care of West Portland, we understand how overwhelming it can be to notice health changes in aging parents. That’s why we’re here to make the process easier. Whether your loved one needs extra help with daily activities or more specialized care for cognitive changes due to aging, we provide tailored solutions that fit your family’s needs.

Our in-home care services include companionship and personal care to skilled nursing. Whatever your family’s situation, we’re committed to offering compassionate care that helps seniors feel safe and comfortable at home.

Personalized Care Plans for Peace of Mind

Every family is different, and so are their needs. That’s why we focus on creating customized care plans that address specific concerns, whether cognitive changes in old age, mobility challenges, or emotional well-being. We’re here to provide flexibility and support so you can focus on enjoying your time with your loved ones.

Take Action This Holiday Season

The holidays are a perfect time to reflect on what matters most—our loved ones’ health and happiness. Don't wait to act if you’ve noticed changes in your parent’s health. Reach out to us at BrightStar Care of West Portland. Together, we can create a plan to help your family enjoy the holidays with peace of mind, knowing your loved ones are in good hands.

For more information, contact us today, and let us guide you through the following steps to provide exceptional care for your aging parents.

Contact BrightStar Care of West Portland Today! 

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