Grieving is an emotional response to the loss of something or someone that has played a very big part of one’s life. The loss of a spouse for example, represents not only loss from death but also from loss of a deeply invested relationship of time, emotion, energy and even dreams.For elderly people, grief can have a different and more significant effect on their wellbeing. This is partly due to the type and frequency of loss older adults experience. They may experience many losses of friends in a short period of time simply because they too, are old. They are also simultaneously experiencing loss of their own independence, physical health and capability.
The compounding effects of bereavement among elderly can include higher stress, a greater decrease in appetite and isolation. But there are ways to help an older loved one who is grieving:
• Spend time and give time. Keep your loved one company doing the things they enjoy: going for coffee, a light stroll or playing card games for example. But it’s also important to give them more time to process loss and even complete daily activities during the bereavement stage.
• Talk it out. Don’t avoid the topic of loss and grieving. Instead, encourage your loved one to process their emotions through sharing feelings, personal challenge and special memories. If they are experiencing multiple losses, talk about all of them separately. This may help them compartmentalize their grief and help manage it.
• Offer support. Be ready to offer help with daily tasks, paperwork, and appointments. This can reduce stress and physical exertion during bereavement. You can also encourage your loved one to see a counselor or join a support group, and maybe even attend with them as a sign of support.