As part of National Alzheimer’s Awareness Month, BrightStar Care is sharing stories that showcase real, personal stories of connections between clients, families, and caregivers. Follow along on our blog and Facebook for more stories, information about Alzheimer’s disease, and ideas to help care for a loved one with dementia. Lily* and her sister live hundreds of miles from their mother Marcia, who has advanced Alzheimer’s disease. For these dutiful daughters, the value of knowing their mother is cared for in a way that reflects their commitment to her can’t be overestimated. “There’s always guilt involved when you can’t see your mom on a regular basis even if you know she doesn’t remember anything,” explains Lily. Bridget, the BrightStar Care caregiver who started taking care of Marcia three years ago, understands. “This could be my mother, sister, or even myself,” says Bridget. “I have to ask, ‘how would I want to be treated?’” Bridget does her utmost to care for and connect with Marcia, but it’s her efforts to send Lily and her sister frequent updates on Marcia’s daily activities that helps the family stay close.
Thanks to Bridget, Lily and her sister now have greater insight into their mother’s condition and activities. Whereas past caregivers communicated little, “Bridget updates us with pictures and texts. It puts us at ease and lets us know that she’s being cared for.” Updates can cover everything from dental visits to just-for-fun pictures. “Bridget will send us pictures of mom wearing silly hats and playing games,” says Lily. “My mom can be very silly—she taught kindergarten—and that lets us know she’s happy.” Bridget ensures communication flows both ways, sharing the daughters’ responses with Marcia. “She may not understand everything but it’s important for her to feel connected and involved,” says Bridget. “She wants to know things, like who called, even if she doesn’t understand.”
Keeping Connected
Thanks to Bridget, Lily and her sister now have greater insight into their mother’s condition and activities. Whereas past caregivers communicated little, “Bridget updates us with pictures and texts. It puts us at ease and lets us know that she’s being cared for.” Updates can cover everything from dental visits to just-for-fun pictures. “Bridget will send us pictures of mom wearing silly hats and playing games,” says Lily. “My mom can be very silly—she taught kindergarten—and that lets us know she’s happy.” Bridget ensures communication flows both ways, sharing the daughters’ responses with Marcia. “She may not understand everything but it’s important for her to feel connected and involved,” says Bridget. “She wants to know things, like who called, even if she doesn’t understand.”